I am not sure what is going on. Is the weather about to change and my kids are in tune with that and I am not, or is it me and I am doing the latest thing and blaming someone else? Today is one of those days that if someone asked me why they should have kids I am not sure I could give them a good answer without a tinge of frustration in my voice. It seems that all day Jessica needs to be right next to me pulling on my clothes, and Cailyn NEEDS to play with whatever toy Jessica has in her hand. Then we get into a screaming match. All of this forces me into this rage of anger and loss of control. I literally had to shut myself into my room to escape the "Mad House".
OK here is your part. How do I get Jessica to stop screeching? I have tried ignoring the scream. I have tried to pat her lips immediately while calmly(and sometimes not) saying NO. Neither has worked. Of course we have a very possessive and bossy 3, almost 4, year old provoking her almost non-stop. HELP! I am losing control of my house to the point of insanity. Please tell me there is something to be done to render this craziness.
Happy New Year!
2 months ago
8 comments:
Once you figure out how to get her to stop screaming please tell me. My girls never screamed they've always talked to us about things. Our son, Pierce isn't talking and screams when he wants something. It's so frustrating. I've tried the same things, but no luck. Let me know if something works for you.
I wish I could help, Joey does it too :( I have put him in the corner for it, told him he needs to say something...not scream. I've tried to tell him that it hurts my ears and stuff like that. I tell him to ask Hannah for the toy back, etc. I am starting to think it's a never-ending battle :(
Just know that you aren't alone :)
To render the craziness? Simple. Open your door, get in the car, drive to the nearest ice cream parlor. Just make sure Jason is home. :) And be sure to eat an extra scoop for me!
It is a hard battle, and know every mom goes through it at some point in her life. My Tyson has the highest pitched scream...and when I asked the doctor how to stop it, he just said to ignore it, and now a few months down the road it has gone away...yea! (But believe me it drove me insane until then). As for getting the kids to share that is always a trial...and girls are the hardest to teach that concept to. Maybe asking Cailyn why she took the toy, and seeing if there is something else she needs. I know with my Benny the reason he takes the toys away from Tyson is to watch him scream (because he thinks it is funny), but when I take time to calmly talk to him, then he seems to do it less that day.
I wish I had better advice, but even after 4 kids, I am still trying to figure it all out and still having days like you did. :)
chocolate and earplugs. Love and chocolate. Call your dad and yell at him, he will let you keep your toys............
I echo the sentiment about ignoring it . . . with using a gentle voice yourself (don't parents have the most impossible job sometimes). Everett went through a similar phase.
A friend of mine has a "break" activity for herself. When it is the craziest and she feels the most frustration, she'll throw out cupcakes, cookies, or a box of cereal onto the table and then lock herself in her bathroom or bedroom for a well deserved 5-10 minute break. Every single time, the kids are too busy eating away rather than getting into trouble. So, the most injury caused during that time is an increase in sugar and maybe a mess at the table. For her, it works. (Or sometimes she calls me and we have a mini-conversation because I can't even hear her above her kids yelling, but she feels better because there is another adult on the line witnessing the mania and telling her that she is loved.)
It may not work for you, but know during those moments that you are not alone.
As for sharing, I only have one young one right now--so I don't have the "under 3 teaching to share experience"--but a friend of mine who had problems with her children sharing actually found the solution to be having more planned time with her children individually. Something about that one-on-one time worked--and it allowed her the space to talk to her older kids about sharing without the heat of the moment.
Good luck and sorry about the length of my comment--didn't have much adult conversation this week!
I wish I had advice for you, but thanks for your post. It's so nice to know I'm not the only mom that has those days. Kids make you crazy sometimes, and then the next second you laugh hysterically or melt because of them. Good luck.
I can't help much on the screaming part either... Chad has had a high-pitched scream since the day he was born (my mother-in-law said Jeff did it when he was a baby too), but Chad is getting a bit better now that he's learning to communicate. I try to ignore the screams and ask him why he's upset, at which point, he tries to tell me what he wants, or point it out for me (for things he doesn't know the word for yet). Only advice I can give is to try to get her to communicate with you. When she gets upset, say things like "What's wrong" or "What do you want?"--that helps the conflicts with myself and Chad.
Good Luck and I hope it gets better.
Love,
Lyndsey
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